Crazy Documentary that I watched on Television

I have been watching the documentary about Russian Serial Killer Alexander Pichushkin though I think the guy is cute as a button  but, the thing about it is the murders were horrific due to the fact that he killed all those innocent people and to make sure they died was to shove a vodka bottle into those wounds.  I actually felt it happening to me O.o!

The interesting thing was his background he had been bullied as a adolescent which cause him to bottle his emotions but, the most interesting things was the fact his grandfather taught him how to play chess and discovered his beloved grandson had intelligence that was not being shown to its potential.  The snapping of Alexander Pichushkin was the death of his grandfather thus he had to return home to his mother which some theorize that he started that killing spree in Moscow Russia that scared citizens to death.

Thought I do have some Empathy for the man because I have been bullied but, I do not think murder was the solution to get rid of my years of frustration there were other methods but, he does not see it the way I do so that is why he is in prison for the rest of his life and I am out here trying to make a difference in my life and others because there is a life after bullying, you just need to get pass the rain.  Pichushkin got pass the bullying but, he never made it through the rain.

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Show loving-Kindness that gets notice by ones that don’t deserve it.

I have been reading a few blogs on the fact that so many people were bullied such as myself and making it through the rain storm of Middle School as well as High School was a challenge.   I made it through the rain with my virginity intact and my mind still goal-oriented.

I have been reading post from other users and they have been going through the same things that I went through yet, they have made it through that stormy time or they are still going through but, are seeing the rainbow at the very end.   Its so funny that people are so full of horse pucky that they pretend nothing happens between you as well as them.

I found out through showing loving kindness for those in need it has taken notice by others some of the them worthy of it and others in their dreams.   There are pros and cons to being kind to others and giving them your time without asking anything in return but, the thing is people start to see that kindness you show to one set group of people then they are the ones that are going to want it.

Some of the things I have done are not meant to be told but, for the most part I do not understand why so, many people want the same type of love and affection when they cannot pass it on themselves.  I will continue to pass on loving kindness but, I will do it to those in need and not to those that are causing the pain as well as aggravation.

There must be something in the Water.

Okay let me tell you the reason for this post title, I am finding it harder and harder to like people or even to trust people because of the way they are acting today.  Furthermore it looks like my dreams of ever having a family of my own has bit the dust because after these last two articles, I am better off alone and unmarried than to be with a person that is mentally insane or with low morals.

Remember the Shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary? Well the man that took in those children is being harassed by people claiming that he staged the shooting in order to make himself a hero.  This sweet, kind, and thoughtful old man protected this children when their teacher was killed by Lanza yet, you have people calling him and emailing him these horrific accusations that he was a part of this incident.

There are only two people to blame on that day one was Lanza himself and the other one was his mother because she was the one that took him out shooting and left him in a basement to do nothing but play violent video games.  So are you trying to state that this retire 69-year-old Psychologist was going to have a mentally insane person whom he probably never met in his life go out and kill innocent people?  I think Lanza should have came to him for mental evaluation.  However, its true that Mr. Rosen heard the shooting on that day but, who is to say that someone else did not call the police before he did.  That is the one thing a lot of people are saying, why didn’t he call the police.  Will to those who think he’s a part of it let me tell you something, you did not know what happen on that day so, who are you to say what was going through that man’s mind when a shooting took place? Have you, yourself been in that situation?  If so then okay but, if not keep that trap of yours shut because the man is a hero and 10 thousand people believe it so, get a life you idiot cowards.

Now for an elementary school two states away in Pennsylvania, what was that school thinking?  They allowed a complete stranger to take a little girl outside of class to only leave her under a park bleacher and her own mother did not know where she is but, they stated that a person claiming to be the child’s mother came to pick her up that morning.   You have to be kidding me on this one for aren’t there any uniform procedure to make sure that a person claims to be who they really are?  Couldn’t the school went and ask for some ID when it came to picking up the child?   That school has a lot of explaining to do and since the little girl has been found, they need to find the woman that blind folded her and made her go under the bleacher.  Poor child is at the children’s hospital right now to recover from hypothermia, this is an outrage to me and many other people whom do or do not have children.

We need more procedures to protect our children from these crazy people if we don’t then what is the purpose of keeping population in the United States?  First we need to reform the safety administration within the schools of all levels and we need to change the policy of gun control.   Secondly we need to have people evaluated more to determine if they are fit to carry a weapon of any kind when it comes to the safety of society.

School safety should be a priority for every state within the United States and within the communities surrounding the schools.

 

What does the future lie for me?

I go on Yahoo and Google every day to see what articles the staff writes for their users to read and in the category of Friends, Family, and other relationship they come out with all these different types of articles that make me wonder where is my future on the concept of ever finding my forever spouse?

Today seems that its okay to have premarital sex, to be low in morals, and treat women like dogs.  In addition it does not seem people can respect a woman’s decision of abstaining from premarital sex and getting to know the person as an individual.   The older I get the harder it is for someone such as myself to get married because the higher of standards I will have for, I am going to school to pursue a career in law or Economics which ever one offers me a position first.   In addition I plan to have a Masters in another field as a fall back whether it is Art History, Cultural Anthropology, Romance Studies, East Asian Studies, English, or Women’s History.

The opportunities for me will be endless but, will there be a man alive to live up to my standards?  Will he be morally upright? Will he be spiritual minded? Will he love me like he loves his own body?  Can he mentally carry the roles place in front of him as his role as a husband?  Those are the questions that I ask quite often but, it seems that I get the Fond de l’ Etang type of men which desire a woman that is unattainable.

I cannot recall how many times men have asked me if I am a virgin or not.  Why? Do you wish to be the first one to have me lose my virginity to and my self respect?  I have too much respect for myself in order to do such a thing and, I view people whom are heterosexual to engage in premarital sexual intercourse to be Fond de l’Etang group of people.   In addition what would my family would think of me if I was to engage in something like that?  I come from a family with a very conservative christian belief and background because I am to be different from the rest of the world.   In many ways I am for example I have a wide range of interests that people in my age or even gender bracket lack.

For example

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I found this unique Chinaware to be awesome yet, there are very few people my age in the south of the United States that seem to appreciate its fine beauty because they call stuff like this to be prissy.   Hmmm I wonder what is so prissy about it.   Its just a form of artwork that came from a human mind so, what is so prissy about it except the fact its bone china.   However, when I get paid this will be on my list of things I am going to by for I will get every color that this comes in and place in my ever growing collection of china that was a dream back in my youth.  Only thing is my china collection is lacking pink because I always said that I would have a collection of china that was nothing but pink and, looking back now the china collection is there but there isn’t any pink.

Another thing that I have a great amount of interest in is the creativity of plants because there are so many ways to create things by using mother nature.  I have yet found a man that shares or even respects this matter of artistic appreciation.

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The pictures that I have with a range of plants that were made into creative pieces of living artwork are endless but, the appreciation value in my fellow peers is zero.

When it comes to the art of cake decorating the interest in the field of art arise again because I find it so interesting of how people can make cakes to like like different things.   Lately, the only other person that shares the same interest is my mother but, I did come from her and this is what she raise me to like and to do if I ever gotten the chance to do so.

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These three are my favorite forms of cake decoration at the moment because I do know there will be more to come and the endless possibilities are still out there.  Could you imagine what it would be like to have a cake such as these at a formal or informal event?

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This is not a cake but, I also find the work of fruit and vegetables to be a great subject of interest as well for, I know a lot of time was taken in order to make this creative piece of artwork.

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My creative interest are forever rising and forget about when it comes to hand work.   I am all over knitting, Crocheting, Kumihimo, Latch-hook, Needlepoint, Quilting, Embroidery, and much much more.    If I was to have a house the inside would be a hot mess because of the things I am able to make.

So I am pretty sure that I will never see that day come when I am married but, on the good side of it I have a promising career outlook for the next 40 to 5o years. 🙂

How shyness affects your life.

“The shy person misses out on friendships and opportunities” – Author unknown

What is shyness?

Shyness is the feeling of being uneasy around people-mostly strangers, those in authority, persons of the opposite sex, or even your peers.

How Shyness affects you life.

By withdrawing, not speaking up, or being so preoccupied with self that you don’t pay attention to others, you may leave the impression that you are stuck-up, unfriendly, bored, or even uncaring or ignorant.   Only do that to those that you do not like and do not want to associate yourself with.  When your thoughts are on yourself, it is hard to concentrate on the discussion at hand so, you pay less attention to the information you are receiving  then what you fear most happens-you appear foolish.

You basically locked yourself in the prison of shyness and have thrown away the key; therefore, you have let opportunities pass you by and you accept items and situations that you really do not want-all because you are afraid to speak up and express your opinion.  By doing that you lose out on the joys of meeting new people, making new friends and doing things that can enhance your life. Others lose out too so they never get to know the real you.

“The shy person imagines that others think little of him”-Author unknown

Overcoming Shyness

This takes time and effort so behavior can be changed, first of all, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you.   If a person childishly poke fun at you, understand that he has the problem.   “He belittles his neighbor lacks sense.”  Those whom are worth making friends will not judge you by your outward appearance but, will judge you for the person that you are.

You can overcome shyness by

  • Wanting to change and believing that change is really possible
  • Replacing negative thoughts with positive action
  • Setting realistic and meaningful goals for yourself
  • Knowing how to relax and cope with anxiety
  • Rehearsing a situation beforehand
  • Gaining confidence by progressively successful experience
  • Remembering that differences of opinion exist and that others err too
  • Practicing to increase skills and learn new ones
  • Reaching out to show love and to help others
  • Dressing tastefully and acting with confidence
  • Relying on the help that God gives
  • Being involved with christian meetings and in sharing your faith with others

Making a start

Learn to be more social such as saying hello in shape fashion or form because there is 7,000 ways to say hello to a person (really there are 7,000 ways to say hello) and start up a conversation.  Remember when you are having a conversation you are responsible for the 50% of the communication; saying ” that didn’t come out right ” will help you to relax and continue with the conversation.

Just be you and make sure that you wear clothes that are comfortable plus clean and pressed.  Do not stress so much when trying to speak to a person, just speak to them as you known them for years.  The more you practice and the more you do it the more sociable you will become.

 

 

What to the ethics of dating?

After reading articles on dating and what people views are in the world of love and happiness how can people take marriage seriously?  The questions that younger generations are asking go beyond the boundary lines of personal questions that go to far.

The recent article I have read is that men and women are asking a person’s credit score, what difference does a person’s credit score make?  In addition why does it matter if a girl is a virgin or not? Why do so many want to have one date then have sexual intercourse?

What happened to abstaining from sexual intercourse to date a person to know them as an individual and they in turn can learn you as an individual?  What can sexual intercourse do to make you learn a person well enough to marry them?  Don’t people stop to think that if you have sexual intercourse that your relationship will not last that long because then the other person loses trust in them the morning after they had sex?  I find having sexual intercourse before marriage means that you cannot be mature enough to marry nor loyal to having one spouse so, you are more than likely to have more than one sex partner.   In addition there is a hefty price of promiscuity, promiscuity from its root word promiscuous is clearly a bad thing. It means immoral, loose, licentious and wanton. This is not all, it is also necessary to factor the cost of promiscuity such as:
• Sorrow,
• Pain,
• Anguish,
• Disease,
• Unwanted pregnancy and
• The sense of guilt
• Damage to sense of self-worth
• Disruption of one’s progress in life, to mention but a few.

We need to factor these costs also. All considered, abstinence is the way of the wise and premarital and extra-marital sex is the way of the foolish. It is like water and beer. Water is the drink of the wise while beer is the drink of the foolish, even as it is popular. Sexual promiscuity may be popular or common place, but it is still foolish indulgence and can never be elevated beyond that regardless of the wording and grammar used to postulate it.

If we all elect to abstain from premarital sex, there would be enough quality marriages to ensure that nobody have to stay many years in need of unfulfilled sexual urges. It is because of easy sexual intercourse from people of easy virtue, prostitutes and loose morals that is hindering marriages.

Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is ordained of God in legal and lawful marriage relationship.

Part of our responsibility on this earth is to learn to master our appetites and control our urges to enable us be turned into the godhood that is possible for all of us. Sexual and other sensations are serving purposes of testing our ability to grow. The fact that people get tired of having sex with their sex-partners is a pointer that it is not meant to be frittered away as part of fun getting. Sexual intercourse has a big place in the scheme of creation. Used within that bound, it is a beautiful experience even when you are not able to get the wow or blow-job of it. No sexual intercourse can compare to sexual intercourse in purity – within bounds of legal and lawful marriage or what Church people would call holy wedlock.

Regardless of what is said here, each individual know the price they pay. People should count their costs on this subject also so that adults do not stand by and watch a goat give birth with rope around its neck.

Many people have been able to survive the setback caused by premarital sex in their lives and still made good and sometimes great strides and thrived. One thousand times that number is not able to survive it. That choice to get involved in premarital sex changed the course of their lives for bad and they could not escape the price tag.

We have the power to choose what we would. But we do not have power to choose the consequences of our actions. This is called agency or freedom to choose. Our world is created by choice. We are in it by choice and each individual’s choices would shape their character and ultimately their destiny.

However, there is so many loose people in the world that finding one that does not have sex before marriage is very rare.   I do not see why people cannot suppress their sexual desires in order to make a strong foundation to a relationship that can lead to years of happiness.
First of all what is the sole purpose of dating?
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Among all people whom are placed upon this earth, dating has an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to make wedding plans the moment you start dating. In fact, many people do not end up marrying the first person they date. At the same time, a person shouldn’t date if he or she isn’t ready to shoulder the responsibilities of marriage.  So if you have the intention of being married then you need to abstain from sexual intercourse during the time period of dating but, if you are having sex with the person then why get married?

If the one you are dating is pressuring you to have sex or sexual intercourse then you are better off without them in your life.   Says James 3:17: “The wisdom from above is first of all chaste.”  So if they do not respect you enough to not have sex then move on to someone else.
In addition one needs to ask themselves is this person right for me?  What are the qualities that you are looking for in a potential mate?  Does the person need to be spiritual-minded, Friendly, Trustworthy, Morally Upright and Goal oriented?  There is nothing wrong with the traits that are mention but, when you are more mature the traits should determine if the person is right for you.
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Know Yourself First

Before you can consider who might be right for you, you need to know yourself well. To learn more about yourself, answer the following questions:

What are my strengths? ․․․․․

What are my weaknesses or vulnerabilities? ․․․․․

What emotional and spiritual needs do I have? ․․․․․

Getting to know yourself is no small task, but questions like those above can get you started. The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknesses. What if you think you’ve found that person?

Will Just Anyone Do?

“Can I get to know you better?” That question will make you either cringe or leap for joy—depending on who’s asking. Suppose you answer yes. Over the course of time, how can you tell if your boyfriend or girlfriend is right for you?

Suppose you want to buy a new pair of shoes. You go to the store and find a pair that catches your eye. You try on the shoes, only to find that—much to your disappointment—they’re too tight. What would you do? Buy the shoes anyway? Or look for a different pair? Clearly, the better choice is to put the shoes back and look for others. It would make little sense to walk around in a pair of shoes that just didn’t fit!

It’s similar with choosing a marriage partner. Over time, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. After all, you want someone you’ll be comfortable with—someone who truly fits your personality and your goals.

Looking Beyond the Surface

To answer that last question, look at your friend objectively. Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive your friend’s true nature. This will take effort on your part. But that’s only to be expected. To illustrate: Imagine that you want to purchase a car. How thoroughly would you research it? Would you be concerned only about the outer appearance? Wouldn’t it make sense to look deeper—perhaps learning as much as you could about the condition of the engine?

Finding a mate is a much weightier issue than choosing a car. Yet, many who date don’t look beyond the surface. Instead, they quickly point to the things they have in common: ‘We like the same music.’ ‘We enjoy the same activities.’ ‘We agree on everything!’ As mentioned earlier, though, if you’re truly past the bloom of youth, you look beyond superficial traits. You see the need to discern “the secret person of the heart.”

For example, rather than focus on how much you agree on things, it might be more revealing to note what happens when you disagree. In other words, how does this person handle conflict—by insisting on his or her way, perhaps giving in to “fits of anger” or “abusive speech”? Or does this person show reasonableness—a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake?

Another factor to consider: Is the person manipulative, possessive, or jealous? Does he or she demand to know your every move? “I hear of dating couples who fight because one person can’t stand that the other hasn’t constantly ‘checked in,’” says Nicole. “I think that’s a bad sign.”—1 Corinthians 13:4.

Issues such as those raised above focus on personality and conduct. However, it’s just as important to learn something of your friend’s reputation. How is that one viewed by others? You may want to talk to those who have known this person for some time, such as mature ones in the congregation. That way you will know if he or she is “well reported on.”—Acts 16:1, 2.

to be continued……