“The shy person misses out on friendships and opportunities” – Author unknown
What is shyness?
Shyness is the feeling of being uneasy around people-mostly strangers, those in authority, persons of the opposite sex, or even your peers.
How Shyness affects you life.
By withdrawing, not speaking up, or being so preoccupied with self that you don’t pay attention to others, you may leave the impression that you are stuck-up, unfriendly, bored, or even uncaring or ignorant. Only do that to those that you do not like and do not want to associate yourself with. When your thoughts are on yourself, it is hard to concentrate on the discussion at hand so, you pay less attention to the information you are receiving then what you fear most happens-you appear foolish.
You basically locked yourself in the prison of shyness and have thrown away the key; therefore, you have let opportunities pass you by and you accept items and situations that you really do not want-all because you are afraid to speak up and express your opinion. By doing that you lose out on the joys of meeting new people, making new friends and doing things that can enhance your life. Others lose out too so they never get to know the real you.
“The shy person imagines that others think little of him”-Author unknown
This takes time and effort so behavior can be changed, first of all, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you. If a person childishly poke fun at you, understand that he has the problem. “He belittles his neighbor lacks sense.” Those whom are worth making friends will not judge you by your outward appearance but, will judge you for the person that you are.
You can overcome shyness by…
- Wanting to change and believing that change is really possible
- Replacing negative thoughts with positive action
- Setting realistic and meaningful goals for yourself
- Knowing how to relax and cope with anxiety
- Rehearsing a situation beforehand
- Gaining confidence by progressively successful experience
- Remembering that differences of opinion exist and that others err too
- Practicing to increase skills and learn new ones
- Reaching out to show love and to help others
- Dressing tastefully and acting with confidence
- Relying on the help that God gives
- Being involved with christian meetings and in sharing your faith with others
Making a start
Learn to be more social such as saying hello in shape fashion or form because there is 7,000 ways to say hello to a person (really there are 7,000 ways to say hello) and start up a conversation. Remember when you are having a conversation you are responsible for the 50% of the communication; saying ” that didn’t come out right ” will help you to relax and continue with the conversation.
Just be you and make sure that you wear clothes that are comfortable plus clean and pressed. Do not stress so much when trying to speak to a person, just speak to them as you known them for years. The more you practice and the more you do it the more sociable you will become.