Got Paid!!!!

$160.00 not going to spend it for the next three months because I finished the three day that I was assigned which consisted of Data entry not, the other three day job that I will be a receptionist but, seriously who tells you three days then it comes out to be two or I must have done all the work in two days :/.   Now comes the three month assignment for 3 months making $15.00 an hour!  I can hardly wait to see what I can do with that money when I get it all because it’s getting really hard to budget $1,075.00 a month just on a menial degree but,  its for the good of society because who else is going to help my fellow human kind.   Helping the elderly and other for a 24 hour week job means more to me than a job making a large amount of money on and ripping off people.

Each day I live I want it to be a day that I give but, my finest day has yet to come.   there are times that I still feel alone when trying to make a difference in the lives of others and working in non-profit as a nursing assistant is the stepping stone to my dream goal of helping men, women, children, the elderly, and animals that cannot defend themselves.   Then I will be free!

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February is starting off okay so far

This is the first start of many things because in a few days Valentines will be here!  Yeah a love filled day for some and for others not so much.  However, getting a job that is only three months long and giving yourself more possibilities can make a differences so, for the next three months I have a position as a HR Administrative Assistant making $15.00 an hour.  In addition after that for the next three days following that position I will have a receptionist job making  $10.00 an hour so life is good.

Now I wonder what I am going to do for the rest of the time since I will be away from my blog?  I guess I can make more money when it comes to getting more temp assignments compared to other jobs that I have been trying to apply for.

Show loving-Kindness that gets notice by ones that don’t deserve it.

I have been reading a few blogs on the fact that so many people were bullied such as myself and making it through the rain storm of Middle School as well as High School was a challenge.   I made it through the rain with my virginity intact and my mind still goal-oriented.

I have been reading post from other users and they have been going through the same things that I went through yet, they have made it through that stormy time or they are still going through but, are seeing the rainbow at the very end.   Its so funny that people are so full of horse pucky that they pretend nothing happens between you as well as them.

I found out through showing loving kindness for those in need it has taken notice by others some of the them worthy of it and others in their dreams.   There are pros and cons to being kind to others and giving them your time without asking anything in return but, the thing is people start to see that kindness you show to one set group of people then they are the ones that are going to want it.

Some of the things I have done are not meant to be told but, for the most part I do not understand why so, many people want the same type of love and affection when they cannot pass it on themselves.  I will continue to pass on loving kindness but, I will do it to those in need and not to those that are causing the pain as well as aggravation.

There must be something in the Water.

Okay let me tell you the reason for this post title, I am finding it harder and harder to like people or even to trust people because of the way they are acting today.  Furthermore it looks like my dreams of ever having a family of my own has bit the dust because after these last two articles, I am better off alone and unmarried than to be with a person that is mentally insane or with low morals.

Remember the Shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary? Well the man that took in those children is being harassed by people claiming that he staged the shooting in order to make himself a hero.  This sweet, kind, and thoughtful old man protected this children when their teacher was killed by Lanza yet, you have people calling him and emailing him these horrific accusations that he was a part of this incident.

There are only two people to blame on that day one was Lanza himself and the other one was his mother because she was the one that took him out shooting and left him in a basement to do nothing but play violent video games.  So are you trying to state that this retire 69-year-old Psychologist was going to have a mentally insane person whom he probably never met in his life go out and kill innocent people?  I think Lanza should have came to him for mental evaluation.  However, its true that Mr. Rosen heard the shooting on that day but, who is to say that someone else did not call the police before he did.  That is the one thing a lot of people are saying, why didn’t he call the police.  Will to those who think he’s a part of it let me tell you something, you did not know what happen on that day so, who are you to say what was going through that man’s mind when a shooting took place? Have you, yourself been in that situation?  If so then okay but, if not keep that trap of yours shut because the man is a hero and 10 thousand people believe it so, get a life you idiot cowards.

Now for an elementary school two states away in Pennsylvania, what was that school thinking?  They allowed a complete stranger to take a little girl outside of class to only leave her under a park bleacher and her own mother did not know where she is but, they stated that a person claiming to be the child’s mother came to pick her up that morning.   You have to be kidding me on this one for aren’t there any uniform procedure to make sure that a person claims to be who they really are?  Couldn’t the school went and ask for some ID when it came to picking up the child?   That school has a lot of explaining to do and since the little girl has been found, they need to find the woman that blind folded her and made her go under the bleacher.  Poor child is at the children’s hospital right now to recover from hypothermia, this is an outrage to me and many other people whom do or do not have children.

We need more procedures to protect our children from these crazy people if we don’t then what is the purpose of keeping population in the United States?  First we need to reform the safety administration within the schools of all levels and we need to change the policy of gun control.   Secondly we need to have people evaluated more to determine if they are fit to carry a weapon of any kind when it comes to the safety of society.

School safety should be a priority for every state within the United States and within the communities surrounding the schools.

 

What does the future lie for me?

I go on Yahoo and Google every day to see what articles the staff writes for their users to read and in the category of Friends, Family, and other relationship they come out with all these different types of articles that make me wonder where is my future on the concept of ever finding my forever spouse?

Today seems that its okay to have premarital sex, to be low in morals, and treat women like dogs.  In addition it does not seem people can respect a woman’s decision of abstaining from premarital sex and getting to know the person as an individual.   The older I get the harder it is for someone such as myself to get married because the higher of standards I will have for, I am going to school to pursue a career in law or Economics which ever one offers me a position first.   In addition I plan to have a Masters in another field as a fall back whether it is Art History, Cultural Anthropology, Romance Studies, East Asian Studies, English, or Women’s History.

The opportunities for me will be endless but, will there be a man alive to live up to my standards?  Will he be morally upright? Will he be spiritual minded? Will he love me like he loves his own body?  Can he mentally carry the roles place in front of him as his role as a husband?  Those are the questions that I ask quite often but, it seems that I get the Fond de l’ Etang type of men which desire a woman that is unattainable.

I cannot recall how many times men have asked me if I am a virgin or not.  Why? Do you wish to be the first one to have me lose my virginity to and my self respect?  I have too much respect for myself in order to do such a thing and, I view people whom are heterosexual to engage in premarital sexual intercourse to be Fond de l’Etang group of people.   In addition what would my family would think of me if I was to engage in something like that?  I come from a family with a very conservative christian belief and background because I am to be different from the rest of the world.   In many ways I am for example I have a wide range of interests that people in my age or even gender bracket lack.

For example

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I found this unique Chinaware to be awesome yet, there are very few people my age in the south of the United States that seem to appreciate its fine beauty because they call stuff like this to be prissy.   Hmmm I wonder what is so prissy about it.   Its just a form of artwork that came from a human mind so, what is so prissy about it except the fact its bone china.   However, when I get paid this will be on my list of things I am going to by for I will get every color that this comes in and place in my ever growing collection of china that was a dream back in my youth.  Only thing is my china collection is lacking pink because I always said that I would have a collection of china that was nothing but pink and, looking back now the china collection is there but there isn’t any pink.

Another thing that I have a great amount of interest in is the creativity of plants because there are so many ways to create things by using mother nature.  I have yet found a man that shares or even respects this matter of artistic appreciation.

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The pictures that I have with a range of plants that were made into creative pieces of living artwork are endless but, the appreciation value in my fellow peers is zero.

When it comes to the art of cake decorating the interest in the field of art arise again because I find it so interesting of how people can make cakes to like like different things.   Lately, the only other person that shares the same interest is my mother but, I did come from her and this is what she raise me to like and to do if I ever gotten the chance to do so.

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These three are my favorite forms of cake decoration at the moment because I do know there will be more to come and the endless possibilities are still out there.  Could you imagine what it would be like to have a cake such as these at a formal or informal event?

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This is not a cake but, I also find the work of fruit and vegetables to be a great subject of interest as well for, I know a lot of time was taken in order to make this creative piece of artwork.

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My creative interest are forever rising and forget about when it comes to hand work.   I am all over knitting, Crocheting, Kumihimo, Latch-hook, Needlepoint, Quilting, Embroidery, and much much more.    If I was to have a house the inside would be a hot mess because of the things I am able to make.

So I am pretty sure that I will never see that day come when I am married but, on the good side of it I have a promising career outlook for the next 40 to 5o years. 🙂

We are Unafraid

To all those who were once the victims of bullying, we have made it through the rain.  We have survived the some of the turmoils that we have faced during those years and situations that we had face.

Here are videos that are meant to help those go through the troubles that we face each and every day.

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I can make it through the rain, I can stand up once again on my own and I know that I’m strong enough to mend and every time I feel afraid.  I hold tighter to my faith and I live one more day and I make it through the rain.

That is what you should tell yourself everytime you have to face turmoil because there is nothing that you cannot face because you are not alone and your not fighting this battle alone.

 

Advice for daters in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s

If you could travel back in time, what pearls of wisdom would you pass on to your single self during each decade of your dating history? Here, men and women from all ages weigh in with advice they wish they’d known in their twenties, thirties, forties — and beyond!

What people in their 30s wish they’d known while dating in their 20s…

1) Try being friends with someone first
“I would tell my younger self that ‘fools rush in.’ [When I was] in my twenties, I didn’t take very much time to get to know a guy. If I was physically attracted to him and that attraction was mutual, a relationship would form quickly. This did not allow me enough time to identify [potential] character flaws — or even realize if I liked him past the initial butterfly stages. Needless to say, I found myself in and out of relationships during my late twenties. In my thirties I am much more relaxed, reserved and patient. I still haven’t found The One and I’m OK with that. I realize now that friendship is the foundation for a wonderful relationship that lasts!”
– Erica Binnum, 33, Long Beach, CA

2) Push through your fear of rejection
“The advice I’d give my younger self is that you miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take. Ego is a man’s worst enemy, and it stops us from approaching the women we want — all because we’re afraid of rejection or worried we’re not good enough. Push the envelope and see what’s possible for yourself; go talk to anyone and everyone that strikes your fancy. If they’re not interested, it’s not a reflection on you, because they don’t even know you. Once you start getting some positive feedback — i.e., you get rejected less and less — then this process becomes a lot easier and actually turns into something that’s fun and enjoyable.”
– Jordan Harbinger, 32, Los Angeles, CA

3) Don’t let The One get away just because you’re young
“I am currently planning my wedding with someone I recently reconnected with after 10 years: the bartender who made me drinks on my 21st birthday. It took us both a great deal of growing up and a lot of effort to get us to where we are now, but the major piece of advice I’d give myself at that age would be to grab a good thing when you see it and don’t let go. Back then, I moved across the country and left him behind. A lot happened during that time for both of us, but we were lucky enough to get a second chance.”
– Lowrey Raines, 31, Los Angeles, CA

4) Celebrate how you feel about your mate
“One thing I’d tell the younger version of me is that there comes a time in every man’s life when you look at the woman you’re dating and realize that she is the single greatest thing that’s ever happened to you. And when you do, don’t be afraid to tell her and let others know how you feel, too. Trust me, she will appreciate it. I married the girl of my dreams, and not one day goes by without me thinking that she’s the best and most beautiful woman I ever met.”
– Richie Frieman, 32, Baltimore, MD

What people in their 40s wish they’d known while dating in their 30s…

1) That “must-have” checklist is keeping you from The One
“Here is what I wish I could have told myself 10 years ago: Get rid of your checklist of what you think you want [in a partner]. You don’t always know what you need. At the age of 38, I made a commitment to myself that I would throw away my checklist of what I thought I wanted in a man and open myself up to dating men of all types. That year, I received an email from a man on Match.com whom I’d gone on one date with three years prior; he had called me the next day to follow up, but I never called him back. He just wasn’t my type — or so I thought. Three years later, there he was, asking me out again. Because of my newfound outlook, I accepted. Nine weeks later, he proposed!”
– Lori Bizzoco, 42, Oceanside, NY

2) Realize that “boring” isn’t always bad
“I would have told myself to find someone boring! Of course, I wouldn’t have taken that advice. Unfortunately, I needed to date a psychopathic person first in order to realize the shrewdness of that suggestion. Fortunately, when I was finally given that advice by someone, I was also ready to hear it. It came from a younger friend of mine who was happily married. I listened to her, and now I’m happily married, too. And no, my husband isn’t boring — it’s just that sane people are boring by comparison.”
– Jen Hancock, 46, Tampa, FL

3) After getting your heart broken, you will meet someone else
“If I could, I would go back and talk to myself during the single darkest period of my life. Someone I loved very much decided she didn’t want me anymore. We broke up, and I entered a deep depression that lasted half a year. What I would go back and tell myself then is this: ‘This pain you feel now will end. And although you may not believe it now, you’re just six months away from feeling better, and you’re only a year away from meeting someone fantastic and you will find great happiness together. Time really does heal all wounds.”
– Scott Thompson, 44, Hatfield, PA

4) Don’t bother staying in a drama-filled relationship
“My advice to my younger self is this: If the relationship isn’t working and there’s a lot of drama after a year, then you need to let it go. I kept telling myself that relationships were work and that bumps were to be expected. I realize now that it shouldn’t have been that much work — or so bumpy. I stayed in it off and on for 12 years, and it’s one of my biggest regrets. I guess I’ve come to the conclusion that life is too short to feel so stuck, and I don’t have the patience for all that turbulence.”
– Dawn Quiett, 42, Dallas, TX

What people in their 50s wish they’d known while dating in their 40s…

1) Don’t jump from one marriage to another
“When I was 40, I re-married way too soon after getting my first divorce. I wish I could go back and tell myself that I’d grow into a much stronger woman had I not been so afraid to be alone. Having a man willing to rescue me felt so great at the time, but I wasn’t really in the best place to see him (or myself) clearly. This set me up to continue abdicating my power to a new husband. Instead, I would give myself a big hug and say, ‘Baby, wait until you’re strong enough to want a man. Never choose a man when you think you need one.’”
– Janice Christopher, 50, New Haven, CT

2) Maintain your platonic friendships
“I became a widow in my early 50s and was so glad that I had kept up with my networking skills and my list of work-based and personal contacts. When I found myself ready to date again, these people were more than happy to set me up with someone who turned out to be one gem of a guy. You know that good friends or family are not going to set you up with a jerk. Maintaining those relationships is hard work and can be a job in itself, but life happens — and it was so advantageous for dating again.”
– Luann Alemao, 55, Cedar Falls, IA

3) Use caution if you have conflicting ideas about kids
“Be cautious of single women in their 30s; they may only want an ATM and a sperm bank. Instead, consider dating women in their early 40s. In general, they’re sincerely looking to be in a relationship. Regardless of their stage in life, though, take your time, and look for something that meets both people’s needs, hopes and desires.”
– Ken Miller, 56, San Jose, CA

4) Interested men love the thrill of the chase
“I would tell my younger self quite a few things. First, don’t try to marry a man for his money — or you’ll wind up earning every penny of it! And if a guy isn’t chasing after you, forget him. Men like to be the ones who make advances and do all the chasing. Even if you are interested in him, make him think that you aren’t as available as you really are for dates. The old-fashioned advice about playing ‘hard to get’ actually has some truth to it.”
– Stella Vance, 56, San Diego, CA

5) Always trust your gut
“I would advise my forty-something self to jump in and fearlessly follow her heart. And I did, in spite of some details that could have easily been early deal-breakers (he was basically homeless and jobless at the time) for any relationship. After 2.5 years, my partner died suddenly — literally ‘dropped his body’ while dancing to a song called ‘Love and Happiness’ by Al Green. But the time we had together was one of the most profoundly meaningful relationships of my life.”
– Ishwari Sollohub, 56, Santa Fe, NM

What people in their 60s wish they’d known while dating in their 50s…

1) Date someone your own age
“In my 50s, I learned that dating women close to my own age worked best. Not having to explain the world I grew up in made connecting with them easier and more meaningful. I didn’t need a young woman to make me feel good about aging. Women who were youthful in spirit made it easy to overlook wrinkles. (I had them, too.) I worked hard to stay in shape, so I focused on finding a woman who shared that passion — and soon met my wife, who’s just a year younger.”
– Ken Solin, 62, Mill Valley, CA

2) Date around to figure out exactly what you want
“The best piece of advice I would offer up is this: Date far and wide, and do not stop 
dating too quickly! I should have dated more, but had a high school boyfriend and got married after graduation. I didn’t know myself and my desires and goals very clearly at that point, and knew I had to divorce him after five years. Get to know yourself and your goals very well before you commit to one person for the rest of your life. That’s something I did more of after my divorce. I have been married now for 28 years.”
– Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, 62, Mount Kisco, NY

3) Don’t assume either of you will change once you’re in a relationship
“Never go into a relationship based on ‘potential’ that you’re confident you will be able to help ‘grow’ and ‘develop’ into something more. It’s much easier to buy into a person that’s already put together a life, like a well-assembled product. While no relationship can exist without a degree of compromise, we must never settle for less than what we deserve in terms of a partner having his/her own character and personal values.”
– Edie Raether, 68, Charlotte, NC

 

What to the ethics of dating?

After reading articles on dating and what people views are in the world of love and happiness how can people take marriage seriously?  The questions that younger generations are asking go beyond the boundary lines of personal questions that go to far.

The recent article I have read is that men and women are asking a person’s credit score, what difference does a person’s credit score make?  In addition why does it matter if a girl is a virgin or not? Why do so many want to have one date then have sexual intercourse?

What happened to abstaining from sexual intercourse to date a person to know them as an individual and they in turn can learn you as an individual?  What can sexual intercourse do to make you learn a person well enough to marry them?  Don’t people stop to think that if you have sexual intercourse that your relationship will not last that long because then the other person loses trust in them the morning after they had sex?  I find having sexual intercourse before marriage means that you cannot be mature enough to marry nor loyal to having one spouse so, you are more than likely to have more than one sex partner.   In addition there is a hefty price of promiscuity, promiscuity from its root word promiscuous is clearly a bad thing. It means immoral, loose, licentious and wanton. This is not all, it is also necessary to factor the cost of promiscuity such as:
• Sorrow,
• Pain,
• Anguish,
• Disease,
• Unwanted pregnancy and
• The sense of guilt
• Damage to sense of self-worth
• Disruption of one’s progress in life, to mention but a few.

We need to factor these costs also. All considered, abstinence is the way of the wise and premarital and extra-marital sex is the way of the foolish. It is like water and beer. Water is the drink of the wise while beer is the drink of the foolish, even as it is popular. Sexual promiscuity may be popular or common place, but it is still foolish indulgence and can never be elevated beyond that regardless of the wording and grammar used to postulate it.

If we all elect to abstain from premarital sex, there would be enough quality marriages to ensure that nobody have to stay many years in need of unfulfilled sexual urges. It is because of easy sexual intercourse from people of easy virtue, prostitutes and loose morals that is hindering marriages.

Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is ordained of God in legal and lawful marriage relationship.

Part of our responsibility on this earth is to learn to master our appetites and control our urges to enable us be turned into the godhood that is possible for all of us. Sexual and other sensations are serving purposes of testing our ability to grow. The fact that people get tired of having sex with their sex-partners is a pointer that it is not meant to be frittered away as part of fun getting. Sexual intercourse has a big place in the scheme of creation. Used within that bound, it is a beautiful experience even when you are not able to get the wow or blow-job of it. No sexual intercourse can compare to sexual intercourse in purity – within bounds of legal and lawful marriage or what Church people would call holy wedlock.

Regardless of what is said here, each individual know the price they pay. People should count their costs on this subject also so that adults do not stand by and watch a goat give birth with rope around its neck.

Many people have been able to survive the setback caused by premarital sex in their lives and still made good and sometimes great strides and thrived. One thousand times that number is not able to survive it. That choice to get involved in premarital sex changed the course of their lives for bad and they could not escape the price tag.

We have the power to choose what we would. But we do not have power to choose the consequences of our actions. This is called agency or freedom to choose. Our world is created by choice. We are in it by choice and each individual’s choices would shape their character and ultimately their destiny.

However, there is so many loose people in the world that finding one that does not have sex before marriage is very rare.   I do not see why people cannot suppress their sexual desires in order to make a strong foundation to a relationship that can lead to years of happiness.
First of all what is the sole purpose of dating?
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Among all people whom are placed upon this earth, dating has an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to make wedding plans the moment you start dating. In fact, many people do not end up marrying the first person they date. At the same time, a person shouldn’t date if he or she isn’t ready to shoulder the responsibilities of marriage.  So if you have the intention of being married then you need to abstain from sexual intercourse during the time period of dating but, if you are having sex with the person then why get married?

If the one you are dating is pressuring you to have sex or sexual intercourse then you are better off without them in your life.   Says James 3:17: “The wisdom from above is first of all chaste.”  So if they do not respect you enough to not have sex then move on to someone else.
In addition one needs to ask themselves is this person right for me?  What are the qualities that you are looking for in a potential mate?  Does the person need to be spiritual-minded, Friendly, Trustworthy, Morally Upright and Goal oriented?  There is nothing wrong with the traits that are mention but, when you are more mature the traits should determine if the person is right for you.
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Know Yourself First

Before you can consider who might be right for you, you need to know yourself well. To learn more about yourself, answer the following questions:

What are my strengths? ․․․․․

What are my weaknesses or vulnerabilities? ․․․․․

What emotional and spiritual needs do I have? ․․․․․

Getting to know yourself is no small task, but questions like those above can get you started. The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknesses. What if you think you’ve found that person?

Will Just Anyone Do?

“Can I get to know you better?” That question will make you either cringe or leap for joy—depending on who’s asking. Suppose you answer yes. Over the course of time, how can you tell if your boyfriend or girlfriend is right for you?

Suppose you want to buy a new pair of shoes. You go to the store and find a pair that catches your eye. You try on the shoes, only to find that—much to your disappointment—they’re too tight. What would you do? Buy the shoes anyway? Or look for a different pair? Clearly, the better choice is to put the shoes back and look for others. It would make little sense to walk around in a pair of shoes that just didn’t fit!

It’s similar with choosing a marriage partner. Over time, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. After all, you want someone you’ll be comfortable with—someone who truly fits your personality and your goals.

Looking Beyond the Surface

To answer that last question, look at your friend objectively. Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive your friend’s true nature. This will take effort on your part. But that’s only to be expected. To illustrate: Imagine that you want to purchase a car. How thoroughly would you research it? Would you be concerned only about the outer appearance? Wouldn’t it make sense to look deeper—perhaps learning as much as you could about the condition of the engine?

Finding a mate is a much weightier issue than choosing a car. Yet, many who date don’t look beyond the surface. Instead, they quickly point to the things they have in common: ‘We like the same music.’ ‘We enjoy the same activities.’ ‘We agree on everything!’ As mentioned earlier, though, if you’re truly past the bloom of youth, you look beyond superficial traits. You see the need to discern “the secret person of the heart.”

For example, rather than focus on how much you agree on things, it might be more revealing to note what happens when you disagree. In other words, how does this person handle conflict—by insisting on his or her way, perhaps giving in to “fits of anger” or “abusive speech”? Or does this person show reasonableness—a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake?

Another factor to consider: Is the person manipulative, possessive, or jealous? Does he or she demand to know your every move? “I hear of dating couples who fight because one person can’t stand that the other hasn’t constantly ‘checked in,’” says Nicole. “I think that’s a bad sign.”—1 Corinthians 13:4.

Issues such as those raised above focus on personality and conduct. However, it’s just as important to learn something of your friend’s reputation. How is that one viewed by others? You may want to talk to those who have known this person for some time, such as mature ones in the congregation. That way you will know if he or she is “well reported on.”—Acts 16:1, 2.

to be continued……